Try offering two concrete choices for a child whose actions or emotions have escalated. When a child is in an escalated state, it is difficult for them to think about solutions to a problem or know what to do to calm down. Giving them choices can be helpful because it gives simple solutions and allows the child to have some control over the situation. Remember to offer choices that are feasible now rather than something they will have to wait for or earn. For example, “I see you are upset. Do you want to take a break in the library area or in the hallway?”